Jane Cole, 56, knew that The Gambia in
Western Africa had a reputation for being a hotbed of holiday romances
between young local men and older British women.
But
when she decided to take a break there with her friend Vanessa in 2005,
she never thought she'd find herself caught up in one.
'I'm quite worldly-wise,' said Jane, from Rothwell, who considered herself too sensible to get embroiled with a younger man.
But then she met Michael, a 28-year-old Nigerian bartender, and his charming, attentive nature drew her in immediately.
Michael
quickly made it clear he wanted more than just a one-night stand while
she was on holiday in the country. He wanted a relationship. 'I was
completely sucked in,' said Jane.
When
Michael proposed, Jane decided to keep it a secret from her younger
sister Tracy, knowing she would disapprove. Instead, she flew to The
Gambia and married him, leaving Tracy to call her a fool.
Quickly, Jane began to see that she might have been right.
Michael
said he wanted to move into Jane's house with her in the UK, even
though she had set her heart on a new life in The Gambia, as they had
discussed. Nonetheless, she loved him, so she agreed.
But
as soon as the couple arrived in the UK, Jane began to question
Michael's loyalty, especially when he began disappearing for long
periods.
After calling a number that appeared
frequently on his phone bill, she reached a woman with whom Michael had
been having a relationship for six years.
'When
I confronted Michael he just admitted it and laughed. "People laugh
then they see us together," he said. I was devastated. My
self-confidence sunk to an all-time low. He had drained me of
everything, both financially and emotionally.'
'I
blamed myself for being foolish and falling for it. I'm supposed to be
intelligent but I never had an inkling. I believed everything he said.
And if he had told me the woman was just a friend, I'd still have
believed him.'
Tracy admits worrying that her sister
might take her own life, because Michael had robbed her of everything.
But Jane is not alone when it comes to confidence tricksters scamming
women in matters of the heart on holiday.
Around 1,000 British people are victims of dating scams each year, according to the Office of National Statistics.
In 2004, a smooth-talking gentleman
named Rudi Sloot began speaking to widow Jeanette Styles, 56, from
Whitby, while in Sorrento, Italy. Handsome and polite, he told her he worked as an undercover agent in the White House.
'I
fell for him. He seemed lovely. He came to see me in England and never
left. It felt like we'd been together for years,' said Jeanette.
But before she knew it, Rudi was
talking her into buying him £17,000 cars and loaning him money, always
promising to pay her back but never doing it.
One
night, when he became aggressive, she called the police. They came and
arrested him and revealed he was a wanted man, on the run from Interpol
for committing fraud and theft all over the world.
'I
felt emotionally betrayed,' said Jeanette. 'It was a lot to deal with
and I get quite emotional when I think about it. I don't think I'll ever
get over it.'
Jeanette is
now rebuilding her life with her new partner Adrian, a local chef, and
Rudy is in jail, but she has been left with the scars of her ordeal with
the man who called himself 'Rudi Sloot'.
Culled from UK Daily Mail
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